Transitions. Change. Turning points.
You can’t ride a horse without performing transitions – unless you’re just sitting on the horse not going anywhere. But, even if you don’t ask for it, at some point the horse is going to move – because that’s what horses do.
And if you ask your horse for a transition, but you or your horse (or worse, both of you) are not balanced, supple and in sync with each other, you’ll be in for a bumpy ride. It won’t be pretty, it won’t happen quickly and you won’t enjoy it.
Transitions are also a part of life. Here we are in late summer transitioning into fall. The Swallows have left the barn for their long flight to South America for the winter. And, I’m hearing more Blue Jays and Chickadees in the trees. Some of my friends have just sent their young adult children off to the first year of university and others are becoming first time grandparents.
It doesn’t matter whether the change is thrust upon you or something you choose; whether it happens quickly or evolves slowly; whether it’s a small change or a huge one; whether you’re 18 or 78. Letting go of the old and accepting the new is challenging. It’s a process – a journey.
“Where has the time gone?” is a question we all ask at the different stages of life. Events like your child’s first or last day of school, the birth of a grandchild, the death of a parent, a change in career or relationships, retirement are all points along our journey that cause us to remember the transient nature of life. But instead of fearing and bemoaning these changes as we suffer a mid-life crisis, we can ride forward through them.
In riding, smooth transitions require the horse and rider to both be supple, balanced and in sync with each other as they move forward through the change of gait. It is the same in life transitions.
- Developing Inner Stillness helps you quiet the loud, non-stop chatter in your head (the monkey mind) so that you can connect with your inner voice. The voice that whispers guidance to you quietly so that you can reflect, re-evaluate and get clear about your true priorities.
- Identifying Obstacles that hold you back from letting go of the old and moving on with the new. Only when your recognize what the obstacles are can you develop a plan to go through, over, under or around them.
- Discovering Resources and Strategies that will help you create and take the actions that will keep you moving forward into your new reality.
- Connecting with a Supportive Community that helps keep you safe as you explore your feelings and connect with your authentic self; keeps you motivated and focused on your journey; and helps you build your confidence.
If you find yourself (or someone you know) stuck in this state of transition or could use some guidance and support as you move forward through whatever change is happening in your life, the “Women in Transition” Equine Guided workshop may be right for you. I’m collaborating with my friend and fellow horse woman, Dr. Victoria Creighton. The workshop is on October 26th at her gorgeous farm in Mulmur, Ontario, and her 3 lovely horses will be our guides as we work through each of the four areas mentioned above.
Fall is a wonderful time for re-evaluating where we have been, where we are, and where we are going in our lives. Then, when winter arrives, we can take time to hibernate and incubate new ideas, thoughts and feelings as well as plan the actions we’ll take to move forward. Because we must move forward or we stagnate.
What do you struggle with when you’re facing a transition? What are your specific challenges in the four areas mentioned above? Leave your thoughts below as a comment or through Facebook, LinkedIn or Twitter.