The following is an excerpt from a blog I came across recently in which the writer was offering suggestions for how to handle a a horse who won’t stop.
“Don’t treat him gently, thinking you can avoid the problem or dare to think he’s doing it because he’s frightened! He’s doing it because he’s a bully. Treat him like we should treat all bullies. Stand up to him. …
All the time you’re doing this your legs should be kicking. Forget about looking refined. This is war! You are up there to prove a point. You have made a decision to crack this habit and you need to kick on through it.”
The post ends with this statement:
“Remember that brute force will never work but for all problems there is always a solution. WE just haven’t found it yet.”
Well, I agree with the blog writer on one point – brute force will never work. But it seems that her idea of brute force and mine are very different.
There are 3 things with which I disagree with the writer:
- “He’s doing it because he’s a bully.” A horse’s main priority is his safety. When he feels threatened or even suspects the potential for danger, his first defence is flight. If he feels he can’t run away, then he’ll fight. Mental stress as well as physical pain have the same effect. If your horse doesn’t understand, feels pain or stress of any kind, he will be provoked into defensive behaviour like bolting, bucking, rearing, striking, kicking out, etc.
- “Your legs should be kicking.” Kicking a horse makes no sense to me. First of all, it makes your seat unstable, creates tension in your body and causes you to pull on the reins. Second, it does not give any clear signal to your horse of what it is you want him to do. Good riding requires the rider to have an independent seat and quiet hands as well as the ability to give clear aids at the right time. This requires suppleness and balance so that you have the ability to feel your horse.
- “This is war!” I want to have a partnership with my horse not be at ‘war’ with him (or any horse). The foundation of the training scale is relaxation. My goal is to eliminate resistance by helping my horse to be calm, relaxed and free of tension. Kicking with the mindset of ‘winning the battle’ is counter productive. It creates tension in both the rider and the horse.
The bottom line is this, if your horse is doing something you don’t want him to do or isn’t doing something you do want him to do, it isn’t because he is stubborn, stupid or bad in any way. It is because he:
- doesn’t understand
- is frightened or in pain
- it just doesn’t make sense to him
- isn’t physically or mentally able to do what you are asking of him.
A good rider – a good horse person – who has empathy for the horse – will take the time to figure out what is getting in the way and fix it. Even if that means changing something about themselves.
What do you do when your horse does something you don’t want or doesn’t do something when you ask?
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What one thing distinguishes good riders from not-so-good riders and fearless riders from fearful riders? It is their mindset. You may have seen a less talented rider do better than a very talented rider in a competition, in a lesson or just riding down a trail. Your mind set either pushes you forward or holds you back.
Here are 7 tips to help you develop a more positive mindset whenever you’re with your horse.
- Be here now. Stay present and in the moment by focusing on the cues from your horse and your body. When you pay attention to what is happening now in this moment, you become pro-active rather than reactive. You can prevent things from falling apart – even if it’s only falling apart in your mind.
- Stop worrying about the outcome. Focus on building a solid foundation and taking each step that is needed for you and your horse to be able to perform well whether that’s on the trail or in the show ring.
- Let go of what others might think about your performance. Stop trying to read other peoples’ minds. People who care about you will support you. The opinion of anyone who doesn’t care about and support you is not important. Let it go.
- Leave distractions and stresses from your life at the barn door. You really don’t want to take them along for the ride. If you really want to, you can pick them up on your way out of the door. Or you can also just decide to leave them there permanently.
- Let go of striving for perfection. In riding (as in many things in life) there is always room for improvement. Recognize where improvement is needed without beating up yourself (or your horse). Refer to #2.
- Avoid over thinking or analyzing what you’re doing. Being too much in your head takes you out of your body. Riding well requires not only awareness of your own body and your horse’s body, but also being able to make a connection between you. Think less. Feel more.
- Make it a goal to have fun. When you take things too seriously or only focus on results, riding stops being fun – for you and your horse. You aren’t having fun if you are judging how well you did on every transition, turn, movement or jump. When was the last time you just enjoyed being with your horse?
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